Rachel Rappazzo, Schenectady, attorney for the child, appellant.

Karen L. Kimball, Wynantskill, for Richard P. Rutland Jr., respondent.

John Clo, Gloversville, for Erica A. O'Brien, respondent.

Lynch, J. Appeal from an order of the Family Court of Schenectady County (Potter, J.H.O.), entered August 28, 2014, which, among other things, granted petitioner's application, in a proceeding pursuant to Family Ct Act article 6, to modify a prior order of custody.

[*2] Petitioner (hereinafter the father) and respondent (hereinafter the mother) are the divorced parents of a daughter (born in 1998) and a son (born in 2002). An order of custody on stipulation was issued in May 2011, granting the parties joint legal and physical custody of the children. That order continued a parenting schedule where the children were with the father on Mondays and Tuesdays, the mother on Wednesdays and Thursdays, and with each parent on alternate weekends. On June 5, 2013, Family Court (Kupferman, J.) signed an order to show cause brought on by the attorney for the children, which immediately suspended the mother's parenting time with the children based on allegations of psychological abuse, as well as an asserted violation of the court's directive not to question the children about an in camera hearing held on May 28, 2013. Following a hearing on June 26, 2013, the court adjusted the temporary order by granting the mother parenting time on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 5:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. at a public venue. At the next appearance on September 3, 2013, Family Court (Jensen, J.) granted the attorney for the children's request to rescind the temporary suspension order and return to the stipulated schedule.

In the meantime, in August 2013, the father petitioned to modify the stipulated order of custody. A 10-day trial began on December 17, 2013 before Family Court (Potter, J.H.O.) and continued on intermittent days through July 9, 2014, which included the extensive testimony of the parents and both children.^[FN1] Following a Lincoln hearing at the conclusion of the trial, Family [*3]Court determined that joint custody was unworkable due to the conflicts between the parents, and granted the father sole legal custody of the children. The court further adjusted the parenting schedule, providing alternate weekly placement, with Wednesday parenting time from 3:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m., and a detailed recitation of holiday/vacation parenting time designed to avoid future conflict between the parents. Only the attorney for the child has appealed.^[FN2]

We affirm. A parent seeking to modify an existing custody order must "demonstrate[ ] a change in circumstances that warrants an inquiry into the best interests of the child" (Matter of Schlegel v Kropf, 132 AD3d 1181, 1182 [2015]). Where, as here, the prior order was based on a stipulation, Family Court was authorized to consider evidence dating back to the stipulation, which carries less weight than a court order based on a full hearing (see Heather B. v Daniel B., 125 AD3d 1157, 1159 [2015]; Matter of Rosi v Moon, 84 AD3d 1445, 1445-1446 [2011]). Citing to parental failings attributable to both parties, the attorney for the child argues that the father failed to show either a change in circumstances or that an award of sole legal custody to [*4]the father was in the son's best interests.^[FN3] This argument misses the point that the constant, ongoing conflict between the parents and their inability to communicate provided a sound and substantial basis for Family Court's determination that joint custody was unworkable (see Matter of Knox v Romano, 137 AD3d 1530, 1531 [2016]; Matter of Greene v Robarge, 104 AD3d 1073, 1075 [2013]; Matter of Mahoney v Regan, 100 AD3d 1237, 1238-1239 [2012], lv denied 20 NY3d 859 [2013]). Having so determined, "Family Court was then required to determine what custodial arrangement would promote the best interests of the child[ ]" (Matter of Greene v Robarge, 104 AD3d at 1075). Particularly relevant here is each parent's past performance and willingness to foster a healthy relationship between the child and the other parent (see Matter of Joshua UU. v Martha VV., 118 AD3d 1051, 1052 [2014]). Given the son's age at the time of trial, his preference warrants thoughtful consideration, but is not dispositive (see Matter of Rohde v Rohde, 135 AD3d 1011, 1012 [2016]; Matter of Rumpff v Schorpp, 133 AD3d 1109, 1113 [2015]; Matter of Rivera v LaSalle, 84 AD3d 1436, 1439 [2011]).

The record shows that the mother regularly denegrated the father in Facebook communications with the daughter—which Family Court relied upon in characterizing their relationship as "more akin to a teenage friendship th[a]n a parental one." We are unpersuaded by the mother's contention that Family Court erred in admitting the messages, included in the father's exhibit No. 5 and obtained by him from the mother's Facebook account, since the account was available on the son's iPod without password protection (see generally CPLR 4506). The record further demonstrates that the mother and daughter regularly exchanged text messages during the father's parenting time, often commenting on events at the father's household. To avoid upsetting the father, the mother conceded that she advised the daughter to erase the messages from her phone. This surreptitious behavior was of no benefit to the children and calls into question the mother's judgment. On the other hand, the father unduly restricted the ability of the mother and the children to speak with each other by telephone (see Matter of Chris X. v Jeanette Y., 124 AD3d 1013, 1016 [2015]; Matter of Brown v Erbstoesser, 85 AD3d 1497, 1500 [2011]). While, as Family Court pointed out, both parents are capable and love their children, their poor behavior towards each other has placed the children in the middle, to their detriment.

Giving due deference to Family Court's assessment of witness credibility, the record amply supports the court's conclusion that the mother's conduct and inability to foster a positive relationship between the children and their father make her less fit to serve as the sole custodial parent. Taking into account their respective day-to-day roles, the court nuanced this decision by granting the mother final say as to the children's extracurricular and sports activities. We do agree with the mother's assertion that Family Court erred in permitting the father to call the daughter's counselor, a licensed clinical social worker, to testify about confidential, privileged matters in the absence of a knowing waiver from the daughter (see CPLR 4508 [a] [1]), notwithstanding the absence of any objection by the attorney for the children. That said, given the abundant evidence of conflict between the parties, we find such error was harmless. The court having heard the children's trial testimony and held a Lincoln hearing, we find a sound and substantial basis in the record to support the court's award of sole legal custody to the father, as was maintaining equal parenting time for each parent.

Garry, J.P., Egan Jr., Rose and Aarons, JJ., concur. Ordered that the order is affirmed, without costs.

Since the mother did not appeal, we are unable to accord her affirmative relief or to address issues that she has raised that are not necessary "to accord full relief to a party who has appealed" (Hecht v City of New York, 60 NY2d 57, 60 [1983]; see Kay v Kay, 302 AD2d 711, 714 [2003]). The same limitation applies to the father. As such, we further decline to review either party's challenges to the temporary custody orders issued in 2013, which are, in any event, moot (see Matter of Dench-Layton v Dench-Layton, 123 AD3d 1350, 1351 [2014]; Matter of Troy SS. v Judy UU., 69 AD3d 1128, 1134 [2010], lv dismissed and denied 14 NY3d 912 [2010]).

Footnote 3:We note that during her closing statement, the attorney for the children acknowledged that there had been a change in circumstances and "that there needs to be a change," but otherwise declined "to advocate for what that change should be." Since the son is represented by a different attorney on this appeal, and considering the equivocal nature of counsel's concluding statement, we will address the merits of the argument notwithstanding the inconsistency.